Suppose one day life suddenly hits you like a ton of bricks. Everything seems doom and gloom. All your plans seem to crash before your eyes. Everything seems lost and without purpose.
At this point you have two choices. You can either choose to be reactive to the situation or proactive.
When you are reactive to a situation you usually respond negatively. You allow the situation to dictate your next move. You act upon your feelings regardless if they are good or bad. Being reactive ultimately causes you to loss control of a situation. You allow the circumstances around you to define who you are.
It’s ok to admit that you are like this. Most of us are. Even those who try not to be like this often find themselves being like this. The key is to always try to be proactive and avoid being reactive when possible.
You need to take charge of your life. Being proactive is when you stay ahead of the storm. You make necessary steps to prevent setbacks from happening. Being proactive also means that when you do get knock down you quickly get back up because you rise above it and take the necessary steps to get back ahead of the storm.
Last fall I launched a website slightly similarly to this one. It had a different name and a different set up. While planning out the site I always thought to myself that I wanted the site to be proactive and positive. I didn’t want it to become some site were I just bitched about life. Ironically, a couple months in the site became exactly what I didn’t want it to be.
I was really upset with myself and extremely disappointed. I tend to be very hard on myself and more critical then I should be. As a result, I ultimately decided to take my reactive sob story of a website down.
However, I wasn’t finish and I definitely wasn’t a failure. I decided to take a short break to regroup myself. I developed a new website and came up with some new ideas. I developed a game plan of execution, which was something I didn’t do the first time around.
As I move forward with this new website I remind myself that everything happens for a reason. Even though my previous website didn’t work out, it still served a very valuable purpose.
My previous website taught me a lot about what I wanted and what I didn’t want with my website. It showed me some things that did work and somethings that didn’t.
The previous website also served as an outlet during a very tough time for me. It allowed me to express my emotions in way that I would not have been able to otherwise.
I’ve been trying to take a proactive stance with everything since launching this new website. So far, it has made a very positive experience for me with much more success.
Based on my experience, I will always recommend striving to be more proactive and less reactive. You will find yourself being more happier and more successful. You will surprise yourself how quickly you will be thanking yourself once you learn to change your approach. The truth is that life is just better when you’re in the driver’s seat.
K.P. Gatti – 06.25.17